this post will be on friendships.
i've always been a strong believer of old friendships. by that i meant old friends who you've been through ups and downs with but might not necessarily keep in close contact with now. that's why someone you knew in primary school might not be a fantastic friend now. firstly, how much troubles can you have in pri school compared to the angsty teenage days when mistakes are made, lessons learnt and character forged. and secondly, i realised people whom you knew in the past tend to believe you're the same person you were many years ago (which i reckon's plain bullshit) and treat you accordingly.
i've always been very cynical about new friendships since you've not exactly known the person for long, you've not much idea what's acceptable to them and what's not and you never know what ugly side of them might pop up at you one fine day. and vice versa. besides the comfort level's simply not there. i've this strange idea that only after there's a major disagreement or a major annoyance with each other can two people progress from the "new friends" stage to a more familiar stage.
i've a new and good friend these days which i used to think was sorta impossible. there's a lot of unspoken, unknown past between us but well, if you love someone, you accept the person for who he/she is. i'm only afraid that one day, we'll reach the major annoyance or disagreement with each other point and never return. i've had friendships like that and they ended in a pretty ugly manner. ultimately i guess it's more important to cherish the present and keep an open heart and mind, being aware that humans being humans are always changing, which makes life all the more interesting.